01/19/12 How To: Throw Yourself a Pity Party

Readers- It may be the time of the year, but I’ve been a little down in the dumps lately. I do my best to keep positive, but sometimes when a string of bad luck comes your way you can’t help but whine “Why me!?”. When I was in my (very) early twenties, my roommate and I did a lot of whining about the growing pains associated with becoming real “adults”. The self-pity fest was most often accompanied by a gigantic piece of chocolate cake and multiple glasses of wine. Soon enough we were laughing about the heaviest things on our minds.

Over the years I’ve realized that wallowing in self-pity is just a pitstop on your way to accepting the bad things that happen to you. So why not have a little fun with it? Soon enough you’re looking towards better things.

So party away, my friends.


1. Alcohol. Whatever floats your boat.
2. Lounging gear. Opt for cozy knits and a warm water bottle to hug.
3. Food. Sometimes only ice cream will do the trick.
4. Music, Movies & Journaling. I’ve watched Casablanca since high school and it still does the trick. I also posted my weepiest tunes on 8tracks and Spotify. Totally subjective and personal, but yeah, Radiohead makes me bawl.

Best Practices (for good measure):

1. Lay off the social media. This is an intimate party and odds are you’re not your “best self” in this state of mind. And let’s be honest, it’s probably pretty irritating to everyone else, too.
2. Reach out to someone you can trust if you need support. Talking through things often helps us move on.
3. Remember that everything looks better in the morning light. You’ll feel better tomorrow, I promise.

Links: celebratory banners / I recommend scotch / sweater / hot water bottle cover / wool undies / ice cream spoon / batch ice cream / casablanca / journal /

Comments (107)

  1. best practice #1 is so spot on! what a great post.

    Jan 27 2012 | Stephanie
  2. Hahaha YES

    Jan 27 2012 | Eliza Jane
  3. Love this! I’m linking to it on my blog because it fits perfectly with my mood today. Living abroad is wonderful but it can make for some pretty amazing pity parties! Thanks!

    Jan 28 2012 | Rebecca
  4. Seriously, where can I get or at least who makes these underwear. I have been trying to track them down and can’t. I’m obsessed, they look so comfy!

    Jan 28 2012 | Lindzi
  5. Oh, yes. My pitty party last week was no where near as good as this one! For one thing, I did not have cashmere undies or a warm water bottle. Guess I have to try again next week :)

    <3 Kate

    Jan 28 2012 | Kate
  6. Simply Fabulous! Totally love the embrace of some down in the dumps time! It makes you feel good when you come out the other side and realise it’s all going to be alright in the end :) thanks xxx

    Jan 28 2012 | SAMANTHA BRENNAN
  7. What an amazing post, I think many of us suffer from mid-January blues, I know I had my own mini-meltdown just the other day, for me my pity party involved a new copy of Vogue, a large hot chocolate, a LARGE slice of chocolate cake, a moan to some good friends and my mum, and an early night. Felt much better the morning after! Hope your January blues leave you soon! xxx

    Jan 29 2012 | Amy Ditchfield
  8. I…. I’m amazed. Every single provision and practice listed is impossibly accurate. A friend sent this to me because both my grandpa and dog died this week, and also it’s just that time of year, so I’m in great need of a pity party. How in the world did you know that all I want is a comfy sweater, coffee ice cream, scotch and a journal? AND THAT PLAYLIST. Of the ten songs I’ve heard thus far, FIVE are seriously among my all-time favorites.

    I normally don’t comment on things but I’m pretty sure we’re the exact same person.

    Overall, I’m impressed and grateful for such a delightful post.

    Jan 29 2012 | JEREMIE
  9. I think i’ll do this the next time i hold a pity party.

    Jan 31 2012 | TelePak
  10. This is PERFECT! I’m going to keep this in mind for those crummy days.

    Feb 01 2012 | Hannah Love
  11. I Love this!

    Feb 02 2012 | H*
  12. this is ridiculously awesome!

    Feb 06 2012 | bradee
  13. This is the most stylish pity party ever. Love it!

    Feb 07 2012 | Brooklyn Galley
  14. Wait, seriously, how do I go about purchasing those wool undies?! They’re amazing! I can’t figure out the site they link to :(

    Feb 11 2012 | Natalie
  15. This is hilarious. Spot on! People ARE disappointing and sometimes a pity party is just the thing one needs to proceed with life.

    Apr 05 2013 | erin
  16. hahah – I enjoy a good pity party occasionally, although I’m more a fan of bread and salt than ice-cream as my pity party snacks of choice!

    Jan 21 2014 | Lisa
  17. This has come in handy SO many times…

    Oct 06 2014 | Bethany Everett
  18. Love it, Bethany!!!!

    Oct 06 2014 | Kate