The Concept of “Enough”
We’ve gone 360 once again, landing upon that familiar time of year dedicated to reflection and hope for our future. Reflection on the good, bad, and ugly of the year behind, and hope for unknown– hope that we’ve somehow learned from our past to gain more from our future. It is easy to pile on yourself, to dwell on all that fell short…on opportunities missed. It’s especially troublesome when worry for tomorrow is welcome, and the outstanding year past is viewed as a fluke.
The itch I love to scratch (with much guilt) is the feeling of not having enough. Enough to be safe, enough to live comfortably, enough time, enough pleasure. Many of us have all these things, but somehow they fall beneath our line of site. The worrying itself feels productive! Worrying gives us the illusion we’re controlling the things we ultimately cannot. And when you’re so worried being enough as a human, it’s impossible to know when you’ve infact, reached the threshold of enough in most aspects of your life. Have I had enough risotto? Do I need another pair of shoes? Do I have enough work to balance with life? If I believe that I am, in fact, Enough….will the world fall apart? Turns out, it won’t.
When you have enough good stuff– the things that make life run smoothly (i.e: emotional and physical intimacy, a healthy sense of self-worth, a warm place to lay your head), most everything else can be left to ebb & flow, as we know it invetiable will. You can have enough risotto and still fit into your jeans. And yes, you probably do have enough shoes, but there’s always room for a little excess in life. What’s important to realize? If everything you had today went away, enough good within yourself will remain. It is enough to survive, and to possibly, thrive.
So, in the spirit of the self-improvement season, let’s take stock of the immeasurable: What makes you… you.
Happy New Year, Dear readers.
True story, Word of Honor:
Joseph Heller, an important and funny writer
and I were at a party given by a billionaire
on Shelter Island.
I said, “Joe, how does it make you feel
to know that our host only yesterday
may have made more money
than your novel ‘Catch-22’
has earned in its entire history?”
And Joe said, “I’ve got something he can never have.”
And I said, “What on earth could that be, Joe?”
And Joe said, “The knowledge that I’ve got enough.”
Not bad! Rest in peace!