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  1. The last few years were a bit rough in the work department. Literally, as in my department at the university where I worked. The centrifugal force of negativity and warring factions was, at times, so overpowering – so overwhelming – I’d arrive home needing to either unload every nuance of every conversation on my spouse or …

  2. About my soaring, loving marriage of 26 years (5 months and 17 days—but who’s counting), people often say: “You’re soooo lucky!” Sorry folks. It’s not called luck; it’s called hard work. And it’s the best and most rewarding type of labor in the land—that of co-creating a partnership or marriage steeped in friendship, mutual adoration, and …

  3. I pitched this title. It seemed like a good idea at the time. And now I’m staring at my laptop thinking, “Wait. Do I love myself?” Because I definitely don’t love everything about me. And I don’t walk around with some sort of effortless self-love flowing through my veins. So… WHO AM I TO WRITE THIS …

  4. So I’ve been working in the world of social media for about seven years now – it’s not a constant thing but I certainly feel conflicted from time to time when it comes to my line of work. Not only are we spending more time in front of our screens in general (most adults are spending …

  5. When the credits roll on Pride and Prejudice I feel two things: Delight. And cynicism. I can’t help it. I want to feel only delight, but I’m just too aware that the beginnings of love rarely match its brutal everyday-ness. Or its heartbreaking challenges. I’ve had some fairytale romances, and none of them have ended happily …

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  7. I’m bad at a lot of things. Conjugating verbs in Italian, even after all those semesters in undergrad. Feeding myself meals that aren’t mostly carbs or sugar. Not over-scheduling myself. All this to show you I am up to my eyeballs in self-awareness about how/where/what I need to improve upon to be My Best Self. But …

  8. Last month, the W&D editorial team sat down to discuss the content calendar for February and decided to make this month’s theme all about Love. We quickly began ruminating on various love-centric topics from the importance of self-love to Valentine’s Day to must-see rom-coms. Given my personal history of not-so-successful relationships, and current dating status (non-existent), …

  9. The year was 1950 when they said “I do” in a little white, steepled church in the countryside of rural North Carolina. He was 24; she was 20. Bright-eyed and deeply in love, they stood together at the altar with their hands intertwined, both beaming with happiness, as they knew this shared moment was just the …

  10. Turn the radio on and you’ve got yourself a myriad of love ballads to choose from. Some of them are the drippy, sappy kind that stick to your bones; others are angry, red-hot with resentment. But, some of the best ones out there are those that aren’t explicitly about romance. Joni Mitchell’s “Big Yellow Taxi” comes …

  11. Did you know there were at least seven Saint Valentines (and one Saint Valentina) martyred throughout history for holding fast to their hope, faith, and love? Love is not for the faint of heart. Even the best moments in love require the courage to receive them—and the worst ones, well, those leave us gasping for air. …

  12. Minneapolis hosted the Super Bowl last week and some brilliant minds branded our city with #BoldNorth. It was great. Our long list of frigid outdoor festivities was basically a dare to just try to be as bold as us. But you can betcha the folks in town for the big game experienced a lot more Minnesota Nice …

  13. Our February theme at Wit & Delight this month is all about Love: in all its many shapes and forms. At first, when I dreamt up this February theme I imagined one of our witty contributors recapping a positive love experience that gave us all nostalgic butterflies and left us feeling tingly from the inside out, or …

  14. A year or two ago, I arrived for a first date at a quiet cocktail lounge to find that every table was taken. My date met me at the door, scanned the venue a few times, and finally turned to me. “Okay… I guess we can sit at the bar—as long we don’t sound like we’re …

  15. If there’s a time of year that puts everything you do and don’t love about your family on display, it’s the holidays. Yes, the people in your family can be the ones you love most on earth. But they can also be the ones who drive you the craziest. Even in the most functional, fabulous, fun-loving families, …

  16. Being single in your 30s is so many things – it is such a different animal than your 20s. I came up with the idea for this article and I am now about a month and half past my due date because I couldn’t find a way to wholly describe the experience. Contrary to a lot …

  17. They’re your partner. Your person. Your lover. Your friend. You’d do anything for them, right? Of course. But if you think granting an esteemed title to the person who shares your every up and down (and each moment in-between) is enough to certify their status as number one in your book, well, you and I might …

  18. I first saw her in the security line at O’Hare. We were shuffling through the shoeless gauntlet of hectic humiliation, and we shared a giggle over the general awkwardness. I noticed her again when she asked my business colleagues where they’d bought the beers they were holding. The third time I saw her, I was actively avoiding …

  19. When you’re sad and single, you are told to get on the apps at least twice a day. Additionally, the prior approximation is probably an understatement. It had been almost eleven years since I’d played the field. I had been in a long-term relationship that recently ended – and the guy I dated prior to him, …

  20. Man, what a year. 2016 – I mean, really?   However, I’m not only talking about the election – I’ve tried to live a life sans drama  – and in reflection, the last few years have been quite the opposite. I tend to be a bit of a hermit on social media – I am one …

  21. We’re in the dog days of summer, and we’re looking for our latest fling. Traditional wisdom dictates that signs are best matched within their own element (Water with Water, Fire with Fire, Earth with Earth and Air with Air) but there is a lot to be said for taking the plunge and dating your polar opposite, …

  22. School’s out. Weather is warm. Government holidays are smattered across the schedule. So what are we gonna do? Gather with people we barely know! How are we gonna do it? Briefly and without adequate follow up that could lead to less awkward meetings in the future! What is it that keeps us calendaring the extended family gatherings, …

  23. PHOTOS BY: 2ND TRUTH

    I’m going to describe myself in two different scenarios: when I first start dating someone, and then also me like roughly a year into a relationship. Early, very-cool version of me: I want to be the most adventurous person alive with you. I could do anything with you and it would be the most joyous experience …

  24. It’s hard to find the right words to explain a day of public celebration and personal dread. (If Hallmark knew them, we could purchase them from tiered displays with labels like “Daddy Issues.”) What do you do on holidays when holidays are hard? When your relationship with your dad isn’t what you hoped, what do you do on Father’s …

  25. I have a story this month that’s a little bit harder to get off my chest than my usual “What the actual frick am I doing in my relationship, ugh God I am a mess,” meltdowns. Those are surprisingly easy because I am very much at peace with the reality that I am, in fact, a mess. This …

  26. From the playgrounds to junior high, the same jealous behaviors find their way into the workplace or social-media-sphere, even though we like to think we’re better than that, or that we’ve outgrown the name-calling and back-stabbing. The undermining. Truth is, our mature selves are bitter as ever. But only if we let them be. I got …

  27. My original pitch for this piece centered around the idea of a husband and wife going through the each other’s closet to simplify what they had while highlighting outfits that could be “shopped” and brought back into their daily routines. You know, to save money. Two beautiful kids cost an arm and a leg these days. …

  28. Tina and I *hated* each other. In the very classic, “I’ve never talked to her in my LIFE but we have both been to third base with the same guy” way. I was absolutely terrified of her. She was older than me; I was afraid of and intimidated by any girl older than me. No, it makes total sense: …

  29. What other people say about you is none of your business. I wish that was my advice, but really, I got it from a friend in college who got it from a Jesuit priest who probably got it from the Pope, who, if I had to guess where this game of telephone is going, got it …

  30. There came a day when opportunity knocked at our door and said, “Hey! Wanna quit your day jobs?” Like any typical millennial on a quest to find meaningful work, my then-boyfriend and I said “HELL. YES!” without hesitation. At the time, my boyfriend and I had been dating for two-ish years and we thought going into …

  31. “She’s my girl crush.” We’ve all said it, we maybe all have one, whether it’s spoken or not. Urban Dictionary defines a girl crush as feelings of admiration and adoration which a girl has for another girl, without wanting to shag said girl. A nonsexual attraction, usually based on veneration at some level. That’s all well and good – …

  32. Planning my wedding with Joe wasn’t exactly typical by popular culture’s standards. I tried on one dress by myself and said “maybe” before plunking down my credit card. We let the florist do whatever she wanted with the color scheme. We picked a venue we trusted with food we loved. We relaxed and went out to …

  33. My paternal grandparents have always been a beacon of unconditional support and love in my life — a source of equilibrium in a tumultuous journey to adulthood. They’ve contributed a great deal to my growth while also nurturing a commitment to one another. Theirs is what seems like an old love, reserved for days long since …

  34. It all started with a book on my new husband’s bedside table. I’m tempted to say that this occurrence was a subtle start to the path that led us to connect with a sex coach, but reflecting on it now, I realize I must have been a frustratingly obtuse 25-year-old partner to Fred. The book was The Sex-Starved …

  35. I know. Your interest in whether someone else is an introvert or extrovert lies somewhere between you caring about the dream they had last night and who they drafted to their fantasy football league. Here’s the thing: you don’t pay all the “introvert”/“extrovert”/“ambivert”/“ohmygodhowmany’-verts’arethere” labels much mind until you’re in a relationship where the discrepancies between you and your partner’s two different …

  36. For those of you who might not know me, I’m Joe, Kate’s husband.  A few things I’d like to get out there before going any further… No, I didn’t anticipate a stranger ever coming up to me and confessing her love for my wife, and the kitchen we make our toast in each morning, but I’ve …

  37. My husband will be the first to tell you that he has struggled with racial identity most of his life. His father wasn’t a part of his life, and his teenage mother was trying her best to provide for his basic needs, leaving Brandon to carve out his place in an all-white family as a biracial …

  38. To help address the question at hand, I’d like to introduce you to two of my favorite women. Both are in extremely happy, committed relationships. Each are on two completely separate relationship paths. The first of the two got engaged within six months of dating her new boyfriend. She used adorably obnoxious phrases like, “when you …

  39. Readers, meet Bridget Borden. Bridget and I have been friends about as long as I’ve known my husband, Joe, and she’s joined the W&D Team as the director of events at Studio 125. Bridget left her corporate job to pursue her passion for designing and planning beautiful experiences, launching Bridget Borden Events in 2016. She’s graciously offered …