Hosting Hack: How to Gather Friends Without the Stress

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Oh, the soirees I’ve hosted. The perfect menus, amazingly set tables, perfect lighting, amazing playlists. Sadly, most of these have only happened in my head. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE to host. I love bringing people together and being in charge of their care + feeding for a short bit. But my inner Pinterest perfectionist gets lost in the planning, overwhelmed in all the tiny details I want to pull off, and more often than not, I end up shelving the idea altogether.

I love bringing people together and being in charge of their care + feeding for a short bit. But my inner Pinterest perfectionist gets lost in the planning, overwhelmed in all the tiny details I want to pull off, and more often than not, I end up shelving the idea altogether.

Last winter, a bit over the endless rain and not wanting to venture out, I finally found a formula for hosting that works for me. A perfect evening in with low stress, minimal prep work, and always, always great conversation and connection. My best tips for making this happen on the regular are as follows:

Intimate and Interesting Company

Bringing together small groups of friends that loosely know each other keeps conversation light, flowing, and engaging. It’s fun getting to know strangers, connected by friends, and an intimate group provides the right vibe to explore and get to know new connections.

Simple Food, Artfully Arranged

I’m partial to several curated boards strewn throughout the space to encourage mingling, moving, and snacking wherever small groups congregate. A mix of store-bought and homemade keeps the prep to a minimum and gives plenty of variety to snack on. To fancy up the food, I pull out all my platters, bowls, and vessels and to build layers + add height. I always plan for one more hearty snack to make an appearance about halfway through the evening, once everyone is a couple of drinks in. A few recent faves: this cheesy goodness, grilled skirt steak, and these chicken meatballs.

Get Everyone Involved

Your friend who’s a closet mixologist, quietly brewing her own concoctions at home? Ask her to bring her latest obsession with enough to share. The guy with the best playlists on Spotify? Sign him up to bring the tunes. Not a baker? Ask a friend to bring dessert. Sharing the workload eases your stress as the host, and everyone loves to show off their skills when given the chance!

Since I’ve adopted these tips and taken the pressure off of being the perfect host, I’ve found myself more excited to plan each event. Gathering my group and enjoying the good drinks, food, company, and conversation is now something I look forward to with delight instead of dread, all thanks to these small shifts in mindset.

BY Jill Elliott - September 22, 2019

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  3. Gitana

    September 27th, 2019 at 3:42 pm

    I actually really needed to see this post. I find that I disappoint myself when I have friends over because I don’t know what to prepare and what to put out on the table. I have another friend who is so good at hosting but I know that if I tried to attempt what she did I’d lose my mind (she loves it though!). Thanks for this 🙂
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