Your interest in whether someone else is an introvert or extrovert lies somewhere between you caring about the dream they had last night and who they drafted to their fantasy football league.
Here’s the thing: you don’t pay all the “introvert”/“extrovert”/“ambivert”/“ohmygodhowmany’-verts’arethere” labels much mind until you’re in a relationship where the discrepancies between you and your partner’s two different socializing tendencies quickly barrels to the forefront and requires some work to make sure everything runs smoothly.
It dawned on me pretty early I was dating a sociopath because he can have just as much fun at a networking event small-talking with strangers as he can anything else. I won’t go into detail about my personality, but for time-saving sake, let’s just say something like, I’d rather get a root canal than make a phone call. (Also like, please do not call me, ever.)
My boyfriend tends to be the homecoming king of every room he walks into. It’s pretty adorable and I love him for it.
It’s pretty adorable and I love him for it, until we’ve been at an event for four hours and he’s still killin’ it, but I’m at the point where I’m sneaking off to the bathroom every 15 minutes for some alone time, in a stall folding toilet paper into origami and making peace with the fact that everyone probably thinks I have a drug problem.
When we first started dating, I could feel myself becoming withdrawn in situations where he was thriving and I was miserable. I was envious of him. Truly. It masqueraded as insecurity in a variety of ways, but I realized at the base of it was me resenting him because of a personality trait he had and I didn’t. Girlfriend Of The Year Award!!!!!
So we had to lay some ground rules. Sexy, am I right??? Okay, not so much. But you know what is kinda attractive? Managing your tendencies so you can thrive in your relationship.
Photo: 2nd Truth Photography
BY Liz Welle - February 21, 2017
Thank you for being here. For being open to enjoying life’s simple pleasures and looking inward to understand yourself, your neighbors, and your fellow humans! I’m looking forward to chatting with you.