“Coming to terms with the reality of a situation doesn’t just mean you understand or accept it. To come to terms with something, you must quite literally be able to put it into words.” And with that declaration, the scattered college professor was cemented in my memory as a Real Teacher. Two sentences cleared up one cliché phrase to show me why we write.
Some claims aren’t hard to sell: too much TV will rot our brains, cigarettes will rot our lungs, and leaving the fridge door open will cool the whole neighborhood. Mom said it all, I never asked for evidence. In this way, I didn’t argue when I was told that writing, journaling, or other written expression could be beneficial.
The research is there: scholars such as Dr. James Pennebaker say that emotional expression and disclosure can improve physical and emotional health, professional functioning, and success in relationships. These assertions held true for me. Recording my observations on my own thoughts and feelings would generally bring about self-knowledge and insight. Blank pages provided safety and space to express vulnerable topics or thoughts. Without an audience, I took the time to process complex issues. When I flipped back to past entries, I could see progress. The physical action of writing allowed me to process more deeply than when I just thought about the same topics.
But I was tired and overwhelmed. Or lazy. Or busy. Even a long list of benefits in the “pro” column didn’t move me to carve out writing time regularly. Taking time to pin down moving thoughts took concentration and energy. I could easily settle into the hazy cloud of unknowing when I forgot about how much I benefitted from those moments of awareness.
And so, for any who also suffer from a tendency to avoid the things that actually help, I offer you three brief examples of how you can move past the excuses and write for therapeutic benefit. The click-bait title of this article would be “Three Great Ways to Improve Immune Functioning, Process Psychological Distress and Construct a Coherent Narrative of Your Life!” True, but wordy.
In her powerful work Rising Strong, researcher and storyteller Brene Brown, Ph.D. asserts that we are “wired for story,” and naturally inclined to create an interpretation of our situation. When we are in pain or shame, the story we tell ourselves is often messy, fear-driven, and inaccurate. Brown calls this our “shitty first draft” (or SFD), first described in Anne Lamott’s Bird by Bird. Lamott says, “The first draft is the child’s draft, where you let it all pour out and then let it romp all over the place, knowing that no one is going to see it and you can shape it later.” Writing the SFD in raw, unedited fashion gives us a chance to spill our honest truths on to paper and later “rumble” with the facts.
Whether or not you call yourself a creative, Julia Cameron has made several serious invitations for you to enter in to the creative process. Respond to the invitation this way: Go to the library or your favorite bookstore. Request The Artist’s Way or The Right to Write: An Invitation and Initiation into the Writing Life. Sit with the book and choose a page, roulette-style. Read.
Cameron proposes a daily practice of writing down the first three pages of stream-of-conscious thoughts that come to us, without evaluating or critiquing the words. Morning Pages is a method of creative unblocking and practicing discipline in writing without waiting for a greeting card company to sell a “similar” message, or for the “writing mood” to strike, or for “perfect” words.
Writing to Heal: A Guided Journal for Recovering from Trauma & Emotional Upheaval is born from Pennebaker’s pioneer research in writing to discover meaning and aid in recovery. This brief journal exercise provides structure, safe guidelines, and specific questions in twenty minutes of writing for four days.
With any method, it’s important to note: Emotional expression is a powerful tool, and privacy often encourages greater honesty. However, venting can turn into rotten forms of rumination, exacerbate negative symptoms or overwhelm your capacity to process a situation. Allowing a trusted professional to accompany you in the writing process may be necessary, especially if you are feeling stuck.
And so, I’m committing to stovetop coffee and a simple journal with a regular pen for ten minutes a morning. If the morning is gone, I will be patient with myself and set the timer for ten minutes in the evening. If my brain is gone by then, the next day I will take ten minutes to write over lunchtime. And you? Tell me what you have found in the words you write.
BY Tala Ciatti - September 25, 2017
Thank you for being here. For being open to enjoying life’s simple pleasures and looking inward to understand yourself, your neighbors, and your fellow humans! I’m looking forward to chatting with you.