It Takes a Village: A Nursery Reveal Story for Birdie

Interiors & Decor


It wasn’t until I had my first baby that I truly understood why we “feather the nest” before baby arrives. Logically, it makes sense, there’s a lot to prepare and plan. Emotionally though, the process of building a nursery is as much about preparing the parents for the tsunami of change as it is preparing for the practical things, like stocking the closet with a month’s worth of diapers.

There are a lot of second time mothers who say they let the process of feathering the nest fall by the wayside the second time around. You’re running around after a toddler and sometimes you can go all day forgetting the fact that you’re carrying a baby inside you. I like to think this relaxed approach to the nursery is a direct reflection of how far we’ve come as parents. At this point, you know what you’re getting into… or you know that you can’t control the kind of baby you’re blessed with no matter how much prep work you put in.

Our second born was, in all honesty, a surprise. So, I was constantly reminding myself that this baby was, in fact, coming, whether we were prepared or not. August was almost 9 months when I found out we were pregnant and at that point, the newborn stage was still pretty fresh in our minds. I knew what I was doing, so the planning fell by the wayside and soon enough, we were 28 weeks and I realized the countdown was on. We decided to transform our office (remember the blue room?) into a nursery by changing up the color to a really fabulous hue: Privilege Green (HGSW3253).

Around 30 weeks into my pregnancy, I was hit HARD by the nesting bug. I loved how the green walls made the room feel so peaceful and rich. And once I began to buy baby girl clothes, I realized that peachy pink would be the PERFECT secondary color for this space. But at the time it was a storage space for all the clothes, toys and junk we needed to either get rid of or take to Goodwill. So I spent my time making a moodboard and planning which pieces I wanted to bring home. I went to 39 weeks with August, so I was planning for something similar with baby number two. I figured I had time to install a big storage bench (using this DIY tutorial) with an upholstered topper in a lovely fabric. I scoured the internet for gliders and took my time finding the perfect sconces. And the crib? Oh, I had all the time in the world to order that piece of furniture.

Unfortunately, this was not the case. I went into pre-labor at 31 weeks. I was in the hospital for four days and then ordered to be on bedrest until 36 weeks. So much for getting the majority of the nursery done between 30-36 weeks! I began finishing the nursery from my hospital bed; I reached out to a couple of our favorite partners that we’ve worked with in the past. I tapped School House Electric for these charming lighting sconces above the crib, they also supplied us with these beautiful botanical prints and a wonderful canvas organizer. I also reached out to The Citizenry for all things organizational and comfort-oriented. They supplied several adorable baskets, a pair of terracota vases, a rich leather ottoman, a pretty wicker hamper, and a dreamy blush throw blanket that I love to cuddle up in with Birdie. Finally, we added a touch of feminine whimsy to the space with a few hand-picked items from Pehr Designs: their Meadow nursery gift set, plus a couple bins for keeping organized.

This entire space ended up being put together by my amazing family. Joe’s parents helped clean out the room the weekend I was home from the hospital, my mom and dad came up and installed the lights and built the crib. My mom did loads upon loads of laundry and my in-laws helped Joe with August. And then at 35 weeks, I went into labor.

This little peanut came when she wanted to, regardless if her room was perfectly ready for her or not. As we prepped for the c-section, I made a running list of everything that hadn’t been done yet. I mean, we hadn’t even packed our hospital bag! I realized as hard as I tried, I wasn’t going to be ready for this baby girl on my own. It was going to take not one, not two, not even three members of my family, but almost everyone. They say it takes a village and it is true! We called our family in the middle of the night before surgery and they made plans to come up to Minneapolis. My brother, his fiance and my sister all pitched in to finish painting trim work and built the bench per my blog post (good job, guys) so when we came home, the space was thankfully not full of IKEA boxes. At first, I felt bad about hijacking everyone’s weekend, and even worse when August gave nine people the stomach flu.

As a mother, it often feels like we should bear all the burden, that all the negative or inconvenient parts of parenting should fall on our shoulders, maybe because we’re the ones physically bringing the baby into the world. For better or worse, having a preemie baby forced me to give up being the sole provider for my baby in those early weeks. From the nurses who cared for her, to the mothers who donated their breastmilk, to my husband who held her tiny hand as they whisked her out of the operating room and into the NICU. In a small way, the way the nursery came together is a reflection of how I want to raise my babies: with a strong group of people around them to support, love, and nurture them, sharing their experiences and giving them a glimpse of their world through their own eyes.

Nurseries often reflect the kind of relationship parents hope to have with their children, despite the fact that we can only control our actions and reactions, not that of our children. As the hours, days, and weeks go by, we realize all the nesting was less about preparing for the practical parts of parenthood and more about making room for the new person entering into your life. It represents both the physical, mental, and emotional space required to love somebody so unconditionally, that you’re able to give 110% to that squirming, 7 lb, pooping machine 24/7.

Now that we’re settling into our routine and I’m still on maternity leave, I’ve enjoyed finding some normalcy in our routine, out of the hospital. But every time I walk into Birdie’s nursery, I see all the people who helped bring her home.

Sources: Crib from Babyletto, Glider from West Elm, Pehr Bins, Pehr Quilted Blanket, Pehr Crib Sheet, The Citizenry Engobe Vessels Set, The Citizenry Blush Throw Pillow, The Citizenry Blush Throw Blanket, The Citizenry Storage Basket, The Citizenry Basket and Hamper, The Citizenry Leather Ottoman, Hand & Hearth by Magnolia Dollhouse, Schoolhouse Electric Scones, Schoolhouse Electric Prints, Schoolhouse Electric Mirror, Schoolhouse Electric Canvas Organizer, Urban Ears Speaker, Dolls from Mer Mag, Target, Jelly Cat, Artwork from St. Franks and Wit & Delight Shop (Coming Soon).

BY Kate Arends - February 6, 2018

Did you know W&D now has a resource library of  Printable Art, Templates, Freebies, and more?

take me there 

Arrow Alone

Get Our Best W&D Resources

for designing a life well-lived

17 Comments  +

add a comment

  1. Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog

    February 6th, 2018 at 10:03 am

    What an incredible nursery! I LOVE the wall colour. So different and so refreshing! 🙂

    Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
    http://charmainenyw.com

  2. Amy

    February 6th, 2018 at 10:16 am

    Loved this story, Kate! Thanks for sharing! Where is the dresser in Birdie’s room from? xx

  3. Lauren Asfaw

    February 6th, 2018 at 11:11 am

    ah this made me so teary! As another mom who had her little one in the NICU, I also had so much love for all the help; especially the moms who donated their breastmilk to my little one. (okay, now I’m full on crying). I’m so glad to hear that Birdie and you are doing well. The nursery is beautiful and so is your writing about it. It really does take a village. I love the phrase “there is no such thing as other people’s children” – we all take care of each other.

  4. Mailinh

    February 6th, 2018 at 11:19 am

    Kate,

    The space you create for your kids shows the love you and your family have for them. Love everything about this post and room.

  5. Eva

    February 6th, 2018 at 12:15 pm

    Such a beautiful space! Congratulations, and thank you for sharing your personal journey. <3

    Eva | http://www.shessobright.com

  6. Third Eye Chic

    February 6th, 2018 at 2:48 pm

    Such a beautiful nursery and story! I always thought I preferred lighter wall colors but I am surprised at how calm this shade of green makes me feel. It sure does take a village and it’s so nice to have family nearby. We don’t and we always wish we did.

  7. Emily

    February 6th, 2018 at 7:46 pm

    Just an incredibly beautiful room, and a wonderful reminder that we can’t do it all ourselves. We moved to Houston from Dublin to adopt, and 5 weeks later (when we only had a couch and a bed in our apartment) we brought our daughter home after 6 hours notice 😉 We needed ALLLLLL the help we could get and it was so humbling but also incredible to know what a support system we had – even from family thousands of miles away!

  8. İles Mutfak

    February 7th, 2018 at 5:58 am

    Very Nice Baby muchs

  9. Kayk

    February 7th, 2018 at 7:12 am

    This is a beautiful post. x

  10. MH

    February 7th, 2018 at 9:13 am

    Where are the sheets on the banquette from? Thank you!

  11. Ellie

    February 7th, 2018 at 3:46 pm

    Love the Nursery! Where is that Dresser from?

  12. Andrea

    February 7th, 2018 at 7:09 pm

    what a touching post! xx

  13. Erin

    February 8th, 2018 at 12:55 pm

    I would also love to hear where you got the dresser! Thank you =)

  14. Farmhouse Friday 2/9/18 — the Grit and Polish

    February 9th, 2018 at 5:01 am

    […] Bennett’s nursery reveal is up on Wit and Delight and it’s just as beautiful and fun as I thought it would be. Kate […]

  15. Claire

    February 12th, 2018 at 4:16 pm

    Where did you find a bed skirt to fit the Babyletto crib? I know it is a standard size but I’ve read the corners of most flat skirts don’t fit properly.

  16. Dulci

    March 6th, 2018 at 10:09 pm

    such a lovely post. your babes are lucky to have such a great mama, and such a wonderful support system!
    xxDulci

    http://www.thefarandnear.com

  17. Jonelle

    March 7th, 2018 at 11:03 pm

    Hi!! Can you please tell me where the dresser is from? I am in love with your nursery

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

MORE LIKE THIS:

Why Decorating Your Home Is Good for Your Mental Health

What 10 Years of Blogging Taught Me

The Hidden Benefits of Being Incredibly Uncomfortable

6 Easy-to-Grow, Can’t Kill Houseplants for Beginners

The Golden Rule: A Dream Career Built From Love, Loss and Resilience

Introvert Dating An Extrovert? Here’s How To Make It Work

Tornadoes to Tablescapes: Life Inside the Lifestyle Blog

Black, White and Love All Over

Marriage – A Requirement of Commitment?

Women vs. Women, and a Little Thing Called “Self-Respect”

Homemade Green Tea and Honey Mask

An Apartment of Firsts: A Personal Story

GIVEAWAY! A Clean Home with Just the Tap of a Finger

Acting like a Kid Again Could Give You Your Next Big Idea

No, You’re Not Too Old for Slumber Parties

When Father’s Day is Different for You

Learning to Find Joy in Movement

Furniture & Accessories to Spruce up Your Outdoor Patio Space

MORE STORIES

Arrow Alone

the latest

Thank you for being here. For being open to enjoying life’s simple pleasures and looking inward to understand yourself, your neighbors, and your fellow humans! I’m looking forward to chatting with you.

Hi, I'm Kate. Welcome to my happy place.

Easily navigate all our recommended products across beauty, fashion, decor, and wellness. 

SHOP W&D Loves ›

follow  @WITANDDELIGHT

ELSEWHERE

PINTEREST

FACEBOOK

333k

3m

12.5k

INSTAGRAM