When it rains on hot tar—that potent, steamy smell. Red Christmas lights on in a dark room. Occasionally sticking my finger in the opening of a bloomed peony or the tight center hole of my ponytail. The tight closed buds of a peony, all of its petals so carefully wrapped. When a man is driving in reverse and puts his hand on the headrest to see behind him. Calm women. Angry women. Backpacks. The moment between lightning and thunder where you anticipate the rumble.
All turn ons. Every single one of them.
Some of these turn ons may be simple pleasures. They’re nothing but moments in life where our senses rise and we feel a churning of gut energy. Simple pleasures boost happiness. They get us excited. They’re another type of turn on. They’re unconventional.
Case in point? Getting hot and bothered doesn’t need to be about men or women. In many circumstances, sex can be about how we enjoy living. In that, unconventional (and simple) things can turn us on. We are humans. Our senses are little feelings tentacles. They feed the fire of life. You’re not weird for finding sexual desires in random things. Foods, smells, nature, sounds, seasons. It’s all about the simple pleasures. Exploring the world; letting it come to us in beautiful bursts of desire, is how we can enjoy a fulfilled life, after all.
Getting hot and bothered doesn’t need to be about men or women. In many circumstances, sex can be about how we enjoy living…Exploring the world; letting it come to us in beautiful bursts of desire, is how we can enjoy a fulfilled life, after all.
So, I asked my fellow ladies on Instagram (a special selection of dudes answered, too) to share their unconventional turn ons and let their freak flags fly. A few quick themes: rich smells, gut-quenching sounds, and nature. Nature really turns us on, folks, and I love it! That’s what springtime is all about anyway. Here’s to the crazy ones who hear leaves rustling for the first time since winter and feel butterflies down under.
Let’s unpack the unconventional things that get us revved:
We aren’t done! Share your unconventional turn ons in the comments below!
Brittany Chaffee is an avid storyteller, professional empath, and author. On the daily, she gets paid to strategize and create content for brands. Off work hours, it’s all about a well-lit place, warm bread, and good company. She lives in St.Paul with her baby brother cats, Rami and Monkey. Follow her on Instagram, read more about her latest book, Borderline, and (most importantly) go hug your mother.
BY Brittany Chaffee - May 18, 2019
Thank you for being here. For being open to enjoying life’s simple pleasures and looking inward to understand yourself, your neighbors, and your fellow humans! I’m looking forward to chatting with you.