The Best Thoughtful Gift Ideas by Love Language


Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and people all over are scrambling to find the perfect gift to give their significant other. And here’s the thing about gifting: Sometimes, no matter how well you know the person, it can still feel like a shot in the dark.

That’s why this February we’re approaching giving a little differently by diving into gifts based on your partner’s love languages. If you haven’t yet unearthed your partner’s love languages, you can have them take the quiz here (or take your best guess based on the descriptions below, if you want to be a little more subtle)! If anything, learning your partner’s love language is an interesting way to get a glimpse into what makes them tick, whether it’s a heartfelt compliment, a hug at the end of a long workday, or having the bathroom cleaned without needing to ask.

And if you’re not in a relationship, consider these ideas as ways you can show love to your closest friends (and to yourself!!). Because giving a gift or doing something nice for someone we love is not dependent on being in a romantic relationship.

Words of Affirmation

If a string of kind words offered in their direction makes them light up more than anything else, words of affirmation may be your partner’s love language. Whether it’s having John Legend’s newest love song dedicated to them or a sticky note filled with sweet nothings strategically placed where they least expect it, these are the small things that have the power to make your partner’s day. Some gift ideas for them include:

  • A Couples Guided Journal – This thoughtful activity could develop into a lifelong routine. The journal allows you to share how you feel about each other effortlessly, and chances are, you’ll learn something new about your partner along the way.
  • Love Note Starter Pack This bite-size stationery is as adorable as it is functional. Let someone know exactly how you feel with just a few words.
  • A Personalized Playlist – Use Spotify or Apple Music to curate a playlist just for them. This could become the perfect backdrop for a homemade dinner for two!

Quality Time

If quality time is your partner’s love language, then together is the best place to be. Giving someone your full and undivided attention is truly a personalized gift like none other. Gift ideas for the person who treasures time spent together include:

  • Cozy Classic: Dinner & a Movie – Pick out a new cookbook with multiple recipes that speak to you (we are currently enjoying Nothing Fancy by Alison Roman), pair it with an oversized blanket (like this one!) and their favorite movie, and you have all the fixings for a cozy night in.
  • Volunteer – Use your time together to contribute to the greater good! This gift also allows you to connect with others in a meaningful way. Looking for some ways to give back? You can find more info in this post.
  • Passport Holder – Give the gift of a passport holder as an invitation for adventure and naturally spark a conversation of the next trip you’ll take together. Let the planning begin!


When looking for gifts, many of us tend to focus on what we’d want to receive rather than how a loved one will receive it. Someone whose primary love language centers around gifts takes the whole gift-giving process into consideration more thoughtfully. A few present ideas for those who are pros at gift-giving include:

  • A Subscription Service – Signing them up for a subscription service is a fun way to show love in a recurring fashion. Eucalyptus Farms or Imperfect Foods are extremely thoughtful gifts that won’t contribute to your partner’s junk drawer.
  • Delivery, Straight to Their Door – Use the element of surprise in your favor by having flowers, coffee, or lunch delivered to your partner’s workplace. Or, better yet, deliver it yourself!
  • The Decor Piece They’ve Been Eyeing – When you’re at their place (or at your own if you live together), pay attention to the home decor items on their wish list and buy them something they haven’t treated themselves to yet. (If you’re looking for inspiration, some of my favorite spots for home decor are The Citizenry, CB2, and Article.)

Physical Touch

Imagine coming home to a massage to help you unwind at the end of a long day. How lovely! If your partner would choose this as their preferred homecoming gift over a homemade dinner or a handwritten love note, chances are their primary love language is physical touch. Here are some gift ideas they’re sure to love:

  • Massage Oil – Relax to the max. This body oil will leave your partner feeling at peace every time they use it.
  • A ~Scandalous~ Book – Give your partner She Comes First and ignite a conversation about your sex life. Per the description, “Most guys know more about what’s under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris.” Enough said.
  • A Couples Massage – It’s a win-win for both of you! Schedule yours first thing on a Saturday morning and then grab breakfast after for an ideal start to your weekend.

Acts of Service

Keyword: service. This love language is centered around creating a stress-free environment for your partner. Taking something off someone’s plate is always a welcomed gift! If this is your partner’s primary love language, they’re sure to appreciate these gift ideas:

  • Give the Gift of a Clean Home – Or, at the very least, give the gift of clean floors with a Roomba. iRobot has several different models so you can find the perfect one for their home!
  • Pack Them a Lunch – The most simple gesture will set a positive tone for the rest of their day. Pro tip: Get a nice new lunch box so their midday break feels like a special experience.
  • Prepare a Home Spa – This could include drugstore face masks or you could turn it up a notch with a towel warmer or facial steamer. Whichever way you go, it’s a thoughtful way to spend an evening together.

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BY Kate Arends - February 5, 2020

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February 8, 2020 12:05 am

My husband got me/us air plants that I have been wanting to get for a few months now. He finally set up the piece of decor waiting for his long arms and legs to be put in display and he took me to get flowers and our air plants to our favorite flower shop… I was so touched by his gesture, he is really listening and as your post suggests: it’s not about the item but the thought a person puts into when gifting something/their time.

February 10, 2020 4:24 pm

Can I do some of these things for myself? No Valentine for me. Im thinking the home spa for one? LOL. Love your site! xo

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