Hello! Welcome to Wit & Delight. We have some new faces frequenting our site (and Instagram page) of late, and we decided it was time to give a bit of a reintroduction to new and longtime readers alike. For the uninitiated, I’m Kate, the founder and creative director of this space on the internet.
Our editorial director sent me a couple of burning questions to answer and I’m sharing my responses below, including a bit about my background, what a typical day in my life looks like, what I’m looking forward to, and more. If you have any additional questions for me, please leave them in the comments and I’ll get back to you ASAP!
Thanks, as always, for reading. It really does mean the world.
Before I started Wit & Delight, I was working as a graphic designer for a small brand design agency in downtown Minneapolis. I was really into the blogging community and couldn’t find sites that represented my style aesthetic, so I decided to make my own. Enter: W&D.
In 2008, the housing market crashed and I was afraid of losing my job, so I decided I wanted to broaden my network and expertise by way of a creative venture. I was interested in writing about styling and design and decided to create a blog of my own.
Wit & Delight started as a personal creative project. When I first created it, I was hoping to branch out into the online design world. At the time, my career mostly involved working with men in the brand design industry and I wanted to do more writing for women. The blog was originally named Afternoon Delight but I eventually changed it to Wit & Delight, which felt like a better representation of the type of content I wanted to bring to the online landscape.
I’ve learned that you never fully have anything figured out at the onset of a project or venture and the best thing you can do is keep moving forward, a little bit at a time. If you wait to start until every circumstance is “perfect,” you might talk yourself out of starting altogether. It’s so important to foster a willingness to keep going and to show up for yourself every day.
If you wait to start until every circumstance is “perfect,” you might talk yourself out of starting altogether. It’s so important to foster a willingness to keep going and to show up for yourself every day.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned along the way (and the one I’m most proud of cultivating) is to not beat myself up when I’m procrastinating. I’ve learned that there’s always a reason behind my tendency to procrastinate. It may be because I need to take a step back and take care of myself, or because I’m afraid that whatever I’m doing won’t turn out as “perfect” as I’d like. No matter the reason, I’ve learned that when procrastination hits, it’s crucial to not fight too hard against it but rather to have a dialogue with myself about the why behind it.
I’m a curious person by nature and I like having my hand in a variety of different projects at once. I’ve learned over time that sometimes that sense of curiosity can lead me to stray from the task at hand. I try not to worry about being perfect anymore, to accept that sometimes I take the long way to get to the final result, and to not beat myself up when I put something off or have a hard day.
Most days of the week, I wake up between 6:30 a.m. and 7:00 a.m. and spend a bit of time with my kids. From there, I check my calendar for the day ahead and often send a text to Nancy, my executive assistant, before getting ready for the day. By 8:00 a.m. (or 8:30 a.m., depending on the day) I’ll sit down to start writing, creating, or tackling whatever task is the highest priority. Most weeks, Mondays and Tuesdays are heavier with meetings, and I can make more time for creating and admin work toward the end of the week.
There are SO many. A few that have really resonated recently are “Marriage Is Too Important to Take It Too Seriously” by Carol Bruess and “How to Learn to Enjoy Your Own Company” by Jill Elliott (among many others). I love learning from others’ points of view, and reading our contributors’ perspectives on leading a life well-lived is one way to do just that.
Truth be told, your journey will look different than mine and there is no one specific formula that fits all! I’ve found that by being willing to put yourself out there, doing things that scare you sometimes, and listening to your audience, you’ll be better equipped to follow a path that feels true to you.
Truth be told, your journey will look different than mine and there is no one specific formula that fits all! I’ve found that by being willing to put yourself out there, doing things that scare you sometimes, and listening to your audience, you’ll be better equipped to follow a path that feels true to you.
One of the biggest sources of inspiration for this house has come from places I’ve traveled. Thinking about past hotel stays, I realized that the design of those spaces was about creating a different approach to home and making guests feel cared for, and that has been a very inspiring perspective shift for me.
It’s also been interesting to look back at my Pinterest history and images I’ve saved over the years—those images definitely reveal that playing with color in design is something I’ve always been drawn to. This house forced me to play with color in a very tangible way and I’ve found that this sense of experimentation with new design elements was something I was really craving.
More often than not, in my free time I can be found hanging out with my kids and with Joe—the kids have tons of opinions and are super creative, and it’s always a delight to experience life through their eyes. I also like to cook, take care of my plants, and read. This year has really been about bringing life back to the basics and finding the simple things that bring me a lot of joy.
Right now one of my self-care rituals is ice rolling—it’s so soothing and touts a host of benefits, like inflammation reduction and a more defined jawline. I’ve also become very focused on intentional breathing—it helps when I feel worked up or stressed. (I’ve been reading this book on the topic and really love the messages it holds.) I’ve also been working to intentionally do nothing more often and to not feel guilty about it (harder said than done at times!).
There are so many! At this particular moment, I really love following Jessica Reilly at @domacile37, Dr. Nicole LePera at @the.holistic.psychologist, Laura Jackson at @iamlaurajackson, Jamie Beck at @jamiebeck.co, and Shavonda Gardner at @sgardnerstyle.
I’m looking forward to a slow holiday season compared to seasons past, more time for activities like baking bread, a new season with the kids as they become more independent, and (eventually!) traveling more with the kids in tow.
Kate is the founder of Wit & Delight. She is currently learning how to play tennis and is forever testing the boundaries of her creative muscle. Follow her on Instagram at @witanddelight_.
BY Kate Arends - November 16, 2020
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Thank you for being here. For being open to enjoying life’s simple pleasures and looking inward to understand yourself, your neighbors, and your fellow humans! I’m looking forward to chatting with you.
Thanks for this Kate. I am not a new follower but I am a loyal one. The reason being I find you interesting and somewhat of a kindred spirit in a social sea of sameness. Your answers to 3 and 4 really resounded with me!
I’d love you to talk about keeping true to your artistic self and working identity and keeping a balance with motherhood. I struggle as the pull to fulfill both is strong and yet doesn’t feel achievable. Perhaps it’s just magnified by the current times!
Thank you for following along, Caitlin! I’m so happy to have you here, and I’m really glad those answers in particular resonated.
I will add that as a potential topic idea to cover in the future. GREAT idea…I think it’s something many of us (myself included) struggle to balance.